Michael Grose - Parenting Ideas

Michael Grose - Parenting Ideas


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Dear Parent,

Your child’s school has just joined over 1,000 other Australian schools and become a Parentingideas School Member.


That means you will be receiving regular parenting articles on topical and practical issues in your school’s newsletter,


and maybe on your school’s website. Your school’s teachers also have access to parenting tips sheets and other strategies to help them support you.


Let me tell you a little about Parentingideas and myself…


Parentingideas is Australia’s leading provider of parenting education resources to schools. We offer an extensive range of


learning resources for parents, articles and up-to-date content for school newsletters and websites, as well as professional


development for teachers and parents. You can find out more by visiting us at parentingideas.com.au.


As a former primary teacher with fifteen years classroom experience I know first-hand the importance of developing a strong


parent-teacher partnership. Over two decades I’ve worked full-time as a parenting educator supporting parents with all aspects


of child-rearing. In that time I’ve authored eight books for parents including Why first borns rule the world and last borns want

to change it. My latest title, Thriving! which is soon to be released into China, has been described as ‘the new roadmap for


raising 3-12 year olds with confidence, character and resilience.’


Some of you may have read my recent parenting columns in News Ltd newspapers that reached over 6 million Australians


every Sunday. You may even see me from time to time in my regular spot as a parenting commentator on Channel’s 9 Today


Show. Victorians can hear me on radio 774 every second


Saturday as I present my regular parenting segment that fits


snugly between finance and pet care!


Perhaps, my best credentials are the fact that I’m a parent


of three delightful yet diverse twenty-somethings so I


understand how frustrating, worrying but potentially joyous


raising kids can be.


Staying One Step Ahead


I believe that parents need to stay one step ahead of their


kids in this fast-changing world, which means we need to


stay informed about the latest trends and issues facing


children and young people today. I look forward to working


with your school offering you information, wisdom and plenty


of encouragement to help you bring out the best in your kids.


Happy Parenting,


Michael Grose




Michael Grose


“Director, Parentingideas”


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Bu l ly-p r o of in g k ids


Bullying is an issue to be discussed around the meal table, in the context of keeping kids safe.


Talk to kids about

their right to feel safe; how to recognise if they feel unsafe and what to do if they experience or witness bullying.


Children who are bullie d usually display a combination of signs.


Childre n often find it hard to communicat e that they are being bullied.


Some don’t have the language required. Many kids feel ashamed, or

even believe what bullies tel l them. Sometimes kids are also reluctant

to tell adults about b ullying, as t hey fear that they will take the matter

out of their hands, so your approac h needs to be gentle and



Here are six things to do if you suspect yo ur child is being bu llied:


1. Listen to their story: It re ally is important to stay calm and get the

real story. Kids need to be believe d when they are bullied, so make

sure they get the chance to talk.


2. Get the facts: Bullying behaviour usually follows patterns. An

accurate picture wi ll help you determine your next course of action,

for example, whether you need to give your child some a voidance or

coping strategies or gain assistance f rom your child’s school.


3. Recognise & validate their feelings (anger, fear & sadness are

common): Bullying always elicits strong feelings so make sure kids

can share their thoughts and fe elings with you.


4. Give them some common coping skills & defense mechanisms:

Look for s ome simple ways to help them handle t he bullying such as

making sure they stay in pai rs, pract icing a comeback line or even

walking and talking confidently.


5. Get the school involved: If your child continues to struggle with

bullying contact your child’s school. Resist the tempt ation to confront

su spected bullies, or t heir families. Teachers generally have very

practical, tried and true ways to tackle bullying.


6. Help build your child’s support networks & their self-confidence:

Positive peer groups are great protective factors for kids when they

are bullied so do all you can to en courage and build their friendship

groups inside and outside sc hool.


1. Acting out: outward signs such as displays of unusual

aggression at home, talking about hating school and getting into

trouble more often.


2. Acting in: subtle behaviour c hanges such a s sullenness,

withdrawing from usual activities, being uncommunicative,

feigned illness, bed-w etting and altered sleep patterns.


3. Telltale signs: more obvious physi cal signs such as torn

clothes, items missing, altered school routes and physical injuries.


Bullying is an issue to be discussed around the meal table, i n the

context of keeping kids safe. Talk to kids about their right to feel

safe; ho w to know when they feel u nsafe and what to do if they

experience or witness bullying .


Despite the fact Australian schools are very pro-active when it

comes to making schools safe places for kids, bullying

unfortunately, is something that’ s still wi th us. Acco rding to the

2009 Australian Covert Bullying Prevalence Study one in four kids

from Years 4 to 9 experiences some type of bullying at school.


Frequent bullying is highest in Year 5 (32 per cent experiencing

some bullying) and Year 8 (29 p er cent) so it is something that

parents and teachers need to understand.


Bullying is an insidi ous behaviour that transgresses children’s

right to feel safe and secure. It can adversely affect children’s

learning, further peer relations and their emotion al well-being.


Ofte n children will tease, argue and sometimes fight, which

shouldn’t be confused with bullying.


Bullying is selective and intenti onal. It’s also repetitious rather

than a one-off or occasional event. It can be physical, verbal or

social exclusion. It also now happens online, which means some

kids no longer feel safe at home. Kids generally feel powerless

when they experience bullying.


Knowing when kids are being bullied?


Some research su ggests that around 20 per cent of bullying goes

unreported so it can be difficult spotting children who experience

bullying. However, kids will usually show signs in three wa ys:

Learn more about managing bullying .


I’ve set up a bull ying section on th e Parentingideas

website with more information to hel p you prevent

bullying, and manage it if it h appens.


Vis it www.parenting ideas.com.au/parents

Share your ideas and experience with other

parents about man aging bullying on my Facebook

page. Visit Faceb ook.com/m ichaelgroseparenting

and go to the Discussion page and loo k for the

section on Managing Bullying.




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